Love?

I spent the better part of today reading posts on one of my favorite forums, the PPK. Someone had started a thread on National Depression Day or Valentine's Day for the Lonely. How is it that some find that person or at least always have someone's eyes to gaze in to and others just can't seem to find anyone? Then there are those who have someone but don't really want to be with them. Why is love so elusive? Have we over-romaticised relationships?

I know very few people that are totally happy with the one they're with. In fact I can count on one hand the couples that are truely happy. I don't know what they have over the rest of us. Maybe they won the lottery in the relationship department. I don't mean to sound bitter but I'm so tired of all the crap they show on TV about how wonderful love is. There's a commercial of couple sitting in front of a fountain; the man kneels down to propose to his wife to re-marry him. She turns around to find her parents and other family members waiting for her response, which is of course, yes! Everytime I see that commercial I scream st the TV "Don't do it!!" Far too many people get married these days. How do I know it's too many? Because the divorce rate is so high. It continues to hover around 50%. That's a big problem. I guess were in love with love and can't really see beyond the ceremony. I think some get married thinking "I'll do this for a while and see what happens." If you can't see yourself with your soon to be mate when you're old and wrinkly or sick and bed-ridden, then that's not love.

I just don't think people know what love is. When you truly love someone, you are at peace. You give and don't expect anything in return. It comes easy and natural. You don't have to think about it. When I hear people ask "how do you know it's love?" that means you have no clue. I don't think anyone has difficulty recognizing love for their children. Somehow we lose that inner knowledge when it smells wonderful and looks sexy. I do hope that i will be pleasantly surprised someday.

As always,
TOO