It is gloomy and drizzly in NYC today. I haven't felt like doing much of anything today. I know I should exercise...

I have been contemplating the universe this week, trying to figure out relationships, love, feelings, thoughts and what I should be doing with myself. I've realized there are no shoulds. Everyday is a new day to create what you want in life. There's no rule that it says it has to be the same day after day. I forget that from time to time. The wonderful thing about life is never knowing how each day will turn out. Sure, we can hope or wish for a certain outcome but I think we put to much emphasis on the results rather than the journey. I like not knowing.

I miss that feeling I had as a child; when I wanted to do something, I would do it for the joy and pleasure it brought me, not for how I would feel afterwards. When you're a child, there is no afterwards, only now. Why does it have to be so difficult as an adult to know and be in the moment? We get distracted by every little detail. Sometimes it's best not to think and just do!

Four years ago during Easter vacation, I decided to take a road trip with the kids to Florida. Having grown up in SoCal, I've always loved the warm weather and the beach (and palm trees) and after dealing with the cold and snow, I needed to get away. I planned to drive all the way...if you've never driven from NYC to central Florida, it's about a thousand miles. Most people would not be looking forward to spending 24 hours of drive time in a car with two boys. I couldn't wait to go. I had the hotel lined up in Florida but did not make any reservations for the drive down because I wasn't sure when i would stop. It would depend on my energy level and how much buttitis I had from sitting in the car. I didn't worry one bit about finding hotels on the way down. Now you'd think I would have made arrangements to be on the safe side, knowing it was a holiday week and everyone from New York would be on the road to Florida. I didn't have a single problem finding a room on the way there or back. Now my point here was not the trip but the way events played out. Here's why I think it went so well:

1. I had no doubt we would find hotel rooms.
2. There was great joy and excitement just knowing we were on our way.
3. I knew we would have a good time.

It all worked out because I did not worry or fret over any of the trip and just focused on gettng there and then how much fun we would have. No worries entered my mind at all - they didn't exist. I'm beginning to see that the more sure we are of something (instead of just wishing it so) pretty much guarantees success. Okay, everyone can find exceptions. We need to strive to experience life just as a child sees and experiences the joy in everything, It's time to get that sense of play back in our lives.

Take a moment to do something you enjoy tomorrow. Don't think about it, just do it! What have you got to lose?

And I did get that exercise in...

As always,
TOO